Book Worm Love
“And the one June night you scribble the ex’s name and: the half life of love is forever. You bust out a couple more things. Then you put your head down.
The next day you look at the new pages. For once you don’t want to burn them or give up writing forever. It’s a start, you say to the room.

That’s about it. In the months that follow you bend to the work, because it feels like hope, like grace - and because you know in your lying cheater’s heart that sometimes a start is all we ever get.”
— Junot Díaz -This Is How You Lose Her
Book Worm Love
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"She never looked nice. She looked like art, and art wasn’t supposed to look nice; it was supposed to make you feel something."
Eleanor & Park, Rainbow Rowell (via askshyster)
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"Delete her number.

Stop ringing her. Stop messaging her. Stop making excuses to see her, to drop by her place.

Erase her name from memory. Remove yourself from her life, more completely than you would like but as completely as she deserves. Move on, so that you can allow her to also move on. When you close your eyes, you don’t get to see her face. Not anymore. You don’t get to think about her lips, the warm glow of her skin when she rests next to you, or how she squeezes your hand in her sleep. You are not allowed to remember the smell of her perfume, that she only drinks mint tea (with two dollops of honey), or that she loves you.

She loves you.

She has been in love with you for too long.

So, forget how she says your name. Forget how she calls your name. Forget how she screams your name. Forget that time you got sick and she stayed up with you all night, letting you lay your head in her lap and holding a cold compress to your forehead. Forget how her hair feels in your fingers. Forget how she looks in your sweatshirts.

Forget her.

Know only that she existed at one point in your life, but relinquish all hope that she could exist at another point — sometime in the future that you are unwilling to specify because you don’t know what you want. Yet. It is not fair for you to swoop in and out of her life as you choose. It is not fair for you to say that you are satisfied with “things as they are” and you will have time to “figure it out” later. Let her stop investing emotionally in you. Let her pour that love and care into the people who deserve her.

Don’t tell her that you think about her all the time. Don’t tell her that it bothers you to hear about her with other people, but that you’re willing to understand as long as she likes you more than them. Don’t tell her that this isn’t the right moment but that there will be a right moment. There is not going to be a right moment. She shouldn’t have to wait for the right moment.

Don’t tell her that you can’t handle ultimatums, that you don’t like the idea of finally adding finality to your relationship — whatever still remains of it.

What you are telling her is that you want to keep her on as an option, that you are taking her for granted, that you want to know she will be there, that you can depend on her at the end of the day. When you find that no one else has stuck around or that those who have are less interesting, less thoughtful, or less doggedly loyal to you.

Doggedly loyal to you.

That is what she has been to you, for you almost as long as you have known her: a constant emotional crutch, the guarantee of stability, a safety net while you reachvout to grasp objects that sparkle and shine far greater than she does. All that glitters is not gold, haven’t you heard?

She is fire. You are ice, and you are afraid that her slow burn will smolder your cool, hard demeanor. That’s what has driven your decisions, your actions all along: fear. You are a coward. You are a hypocrite. You are terrified to let her go, but you are afraid she is too good for you, that she could drive you wild, that you would choke on her flames. That she is too much for you to handle right now.

Right now.

But if you choose not to love her now, you can’t choose to love her later."

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"No one ever tells you that people will leave your life, unannounced. Sometimes they leave the earth, sometimes they just leave you. Things continue. Tomorrow you will wake up and the sun will be kissing your eyelids and it will be a new day for you to drink too much coffee and reread an old book. You will be okay. No one ever tells you that, either. Days will melt together like some candle you burned down to scraps, and seasons will change. You will fall in and out of love with yourself more times than you’ll ever be able to count. It is important to take the time to appreciate your own fingerprints, your own skin. There will be days when it is all you have."
never forget to be kind to yourself. (via splitterherzen)
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thatbullshit:

Harrison Ford - 1978. Hello
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riotgrrrlact:

ohnobutwhy:

This man, Conor Fowler of Baltimore, MD, is a rapist. He raped me and has raped other women I know. He is violent, manipulative, dangerous, and should not be trusted. He is not under any current legal investigation and is still a threat to women in the Baltimore area.
Stay away from him and advise everyone you know to do the same. I suspect he has attacked many women and will continue to do so any time he feels he can get away with it.
It has taken me nearly six years to build up the courage to share this in such a public way and I am doing so in hopes of reaching out to other women he victimized who have not yet had the support or avenues needed to come forward.  I want to do everything in my power to stop him from hurting anyone else, but I can’t do this alone.  Please share via any/all social media platforms and feel free to add commentary.
If you know someone Conor assaulted who wants to talk me, give her my contact information or request it through my ask box if you don’t know me in person.  You are not alone

First things first, I want to commend the woman speaking out. We read, everyday, about more and more sexual assault survivors outing their abusers and I can only imagine how difficult it is to do so. You have courage that I’ve never known and I hope that you continue to flourish and shine. Clearly, you have a lot of support, keep those people close because misogyny, rape apologists, and victim blamers often lurk around. 
Being someone who is very distantly acquainted with this man, I hate to admit that I hesitated when I saw this post because my instinct was ‘how do I know this is true?’ and ‘this guy’s reputation is on the line’ but then I thought about it (asked some questions, got some answers) and realized I was perpetuating everything that I’ve been fighting against and all the things I’m hoping women and men will ‘unteach’ themselves. 
I’m confident that many people I know who know him much better than I do and perhaps even consider him a friend will have the same knee-jerk reaction. 
Stop.
And, now, consider: People don’t just makes these accusations up. And people don’t just randomly accuse someone of a heinous crime six years later (or at any time, really). Less than 1% of rape accusations are false and as much as you may know or like this man, it’s highly unlikely that this falls into that category. 
It’s easy to share an article about the Steubenville, or TKE, or any other men who’ve been accused of horrific crimes against women when they’re distant and far-removed from you.
It’s easy to advocate for change in those cases. It’s a little more uncomfortable when that person is someone you know, but what you don’t want to do right now is perpetuate exactly what you stood against in all those past articles you’ve shared about rape (the current one’s probably being the Columbia University student speaking up). 
So right now may perhaps be a defining moment for many of the people who I know. You’re probably going to learn a lot about yourself in how you react and then choose to proceed here. 
Don’t be like all of those people we’ve hated on for supporting rapists and rallying behind them. 

Just don’t. 
riotgrrrlact:

ohnobutwhy:

This man, Conor Fowler of Baltimore, MD, is a rapist. He raped me and has raped other women I know. He is violent, manipulative, dangerous, and should not be trusted. He is not under any current legal investigation and is still a threat to women in the Baltimore area.
Stay away from him and advise everyone you know to do the same. I suspect he has attacked many women and will continue to do so any time he feels he can get away with it.
It has taken me nearly six years to build up the courage to share this in such a public way and I am doing so in hopes of reaching out to other women he victimized who have not yet had the support or avenues needed to come forward.  I want to do everything in my power to stop him from hurting anyone else, but I can’t do this alone.  Please share via any/all social media platforms and feel free to add commentary.
If you know someone Conor assaulted who wants to talk me, give her my contact information or request it through my ask box if you don’t know me in person.  You are not alone

First things first, I want to commend the woman speaking out. We read, everyday, about more and more sexual assault survivors outing their abusers and I can only imagine how difficult it is to do so. You have courage that I’ve never known and I hope that you continue to flourish and shine. Clearly, you have a lot of support, keep those people close because misogyny, rape apologists, and victim blamers often lurk around. 
Being someone who is very distantly acquainted with this man, I hate to admit that I hesitated when I saw this post because my instinct was ‘how do I know this is true?’ and ‘this guy’s reputation is on the line’ but then I thought about it (asked some questions, got some answers) and realized I was perpetuating everything that I’ve been fighting against and all the things I’m hoping women and men will ‘unteach’ themselves. 
I’m confident that many people I know who know him much better than I do and perhaps even consider him a friend will have the same knee-jerk reaction. 
Stop.
And, now, consider: People don’t just makes these accusations up. And people don’t just randomly accuse someone of a heinous crime six years later (or at any time, really). Less than 1% of rape accusations are false and as much as you may know or like this man, it’s highly unlikely that this falls into that category. 
It’s easy to share an article about the Steubenville, or TKE, or any other men who’ve been accused of horrific crimes against women when they’re distant and far-removed from you.
It’s easy to advocate for change in those cases. It’s a little more uncomfortable when that person is someone you know, but what you don’t want to do right now is perpetuate exactly what you stood against in all those past articles you’ve shared about rape (the current one’s probably being the Columbia University student speaking up). 
So right now may perhaps be a defining moment for many of the people who I know. You’re probably going to learn a lot about yourself in how you react and then choose to proceed here. 
Don’t be like all of those people we’ve hated on for supporting rapists and rallying behind them. 

Just don’t. 
riotgrrrlact:

ohnobutwhy:

This man, Conor Fowler of Baltimore, MD, is a rapist. He raped me and has raped other women I know. He is violent, manipulative, dangerous, and should not be trusted. He is not under any current legal investigation and is still a threat to women in the Baltimore area.
Stay away from him and advise everyone you know to do the same. I suspect he has attacked many women and will continue to do so any time he feels he can get away with it.
It has taken me nearly six years to build up the courage to share this in such a public way and I am doing so in hopes of reaching out to other women he victimized who have not yet had the support or avenues needed to come forward.  I want to do everything in my power to stop him from hurting anyone else, but I can’t do this alone.  Please share via any/all social media platforms and feel free to add commentary.
If you know someone Conor assaulted who wants to talk me, give her my contact information or request it through my ask box if you don’t know me in person.  You are not alone

First things first, I want to commend the woman speaking out. We read, everyday, about more and more sexual assault survivors outing their abusers and I can only imagine how difficult it is to do so. You have courage that I’ve never known and I hope that you continue to flourish and shine. Clearly, you have a lot of support, keep those people close because misogyny, rape apologists, and victim blamers often lurk around. 
Being someone who is very distantly acquainted with this man, I hate to admit that I hesitated when I saw this post because my instinct was ‘how do I know this is true?’ and ‘this guy’s reputation is on the line’ but then I thought about it (asked some questions, got some answers) and realized I was perpetuating everything that I’ve been fighting against and all the things I’m hoping women and men will ‘unteach’ themselves. 
I’m confident that many people I know who know him much better than I do and perhaps even consider him a friend will have the same knee-jerk reaction. 
Stop.
And, now, consider: People don’t just makes these accusations up. And people don’t just randomly accuse someone of a heinous crime six years later (or at any time, really). Less than 1% of rape accusations are false and as much as you may know or like this man, it’s highly unlikely that this falls into that category. 
It’s easy to share an article about the Steubenville, or TKE, or any other men who’ve been accused of horrific crimes against women when they’re distant and far-removed from you.
It’s easy to advocate for change in those cases. It’s a little more uncomfortable when that person is someone you know, but what you don’t want to do right now is perpetuate exactly what you stood against in all those past articles you’ve shared about rape (the current one’s probably being the Columbia University student speaking up). 
So right now may perhaps be a defining moment for many of the people who I know. You’re probably going to learn a lot about yourself in how you react and then choose to proceed here. 
Don’t be like all of those people we’ve hated on for supporting rapists and rallying behind them. 

Just don’t. 
riotgrrrlact:

ohnobutwhy:

This man, Conor Fowler of Baltimore, MD, is a rapist. He raped me and has raped other women I know. He is violent, manipulative, dangerous, and should not be trusted. He is not under any current legal investigation and is still a threat to women in the Baltimore area.
Stay away from him and advise everyone you know to do the same. I suspect he has attacked many women and will continue to do so any time he feels he can get away with it.
It has taken me nearly six years to build up the courage to share this in such a public way and I am doing so in hopes of reaching out to other women he victimized who have not yet had the support or avenues needed to come forward.  I want to do everything in my power to stop him from hurting anyone else, but I can’t do this alone.  Please share via any/all social media platforms and feel free to add commentary.
If you know someone Conor assaulted who wants to talk me, give her my contact information or request it through my ask box if you don’t know me in person.  You are not alone

First things first, I want to commend the woman speaking out. We read, everyday, about more and more sexual assault survivors outing their abusers and I can only imagine how difficult it is to do so. You have courage that I’ve never known and I hope that you continue to flourish and shine. Clearly, you have a lot of support, keep those people close because misogyny, rape apologists, and victim blamers often lurk around. 
Being someone who is very distantly acquainted with this man, I hate to admit that I hesitated when I saw this post because my instinct was ‘how do I know this is true?’ and ‘this guy’s reputation is on the line’ but then I thought about it (asked some questions, got some answers) and realized I was perpetuating everything that I’ve been fighting against and all the things I’m hoping women and men will ‘unteach’ themselves. 
I’m confident that many people I know who know him much better than I do and perhaps even consider him a friend will have the same knee-jerk reaction. 
Stop.
And, now, consider: People don’t just makes these accusations up. And people don’t just randomly accuse someone of a heinous crime six years later (or at any time, really). Less than 1% of rape accusations are false and as much as you may know or like this man, it’s highly unlikely that this falls into that category. 
It’s easy to share an article about the Steubenville, or TKE, or any other men who’ve been accused of horrific crimes against women when they’re distant and far-removed from you.
It’s easy to advocate for change in those cases. It’s a little more uncomfortable when that person is someone you know, but what you don’t want to do right now is perpetuate exactly what you stood against in all those past articles you’ve shared about rape (the current one’s probably being the Columbia University student speaking up). 
So right now may perhaps be a defining moment for many of the people who I know. You’re probably going to learn a lot about yourself in how you react and then choose to proceed here. 
Don’t be like all of those people we’ve hated on for supporting rapists and rallying behind them. 

Just don’t. 
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jurneesmollett:

Howard students, you inspire me. You inspire us all. We stand with you and the family of #mikebrown  #NoJusticeNoPeace #mikebrown #michaelbrown #ferguson #revolution #howard
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arrestus:

VIA: ARREST US
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1. When he starts distancing himself from you, do not restring bridges with your own sinew. You will find yourself two months later coming unraveled, coming undone. You will find he has left you in the places he has visited and in the hair of the girls he has imagined kissing. You will find yourself splatterpainted on the walls where while drunk he confessed all of your secrets to his college friends. You will be crying on the floor, surrounded by the parts of you he has stepped on, and he will look you in the eyes and ask you to clean up the mess.

2. When she cannot get through the words “I love you” without her eyes flicking to the side or her tongue slurring or her mouth pressing in at the edges: do not assume it is your fault. Do not think that you have yet again pushed away someone amazing. You have not. Sometimes people knock on their bones and find themselves hollow. You were the only way they felt momentarily whole, do not empty yourself to fill up their soul. Do not shatter into pieces trying to perfect yourself. You do not need to be glass to turn light into rainbows. You are a person, not their prism.

3. Do not let them hold you against their body if you know they do not cherish every second they are in contact with your skin. I know it feels as if you are breaking your own spine, but tear yourself away from them. Know that the something beautiful you had was already fading. Know that in the end you did the only thing you could. Sometimes people grow apart. Even trees do it.

4. Cry. Want them back.

5. Cry. Do not take them back.

6. In the following months, you will rediscover what it means to be alone. You will sit and stare at a ceiling and hate yourself and hate the world and cry about everything because everything hurts. You will wonder if it could have gotten better if you’d just been a little different, if the timing had worked out, if if if. Do not worry about this. Nothing would have changed the reality that the person you were in love with had stopped loving you somewhere along the line, whether it was in the middle of a conversation or while driving under a bridge or when they made eye contact with someone new and wonderful. It doesn’t matter. Stop wasting your time on them. You don’t need to stop your story just because they are no longer a main character. Do not take back what has already poisoned you. Instead start healing and start healing soon.

7. Take yourself back. Bring out the mop, the broom, the magic wand. Glue where needs to be glued, put up new paint, turn off the lights in places that are too hot to touch. Touch your toes. Touch your hair. Touch a dog. Touch the grass, touch the telephone, do not call him. Touch base with your mom. Touch another person with no love in your heart, touch another person and mean every second of it. Believe in yourself even if you don’t believe in love. It’s okay. There is nothing wrong with being alone. You are the best company you’ll ever know. It’s okay. It’s okay. You’re gonna be okay and none of this was ever your fault. Sometimes people just fall out of love. It’s okay. It’s okay. You’ll one day discover you didn’t need them anyway.

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How To Stop Loving Someone That Doesn’t Love You,Raquel I.D. (via vixenelle)
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I love the sometimes absolutely ugly but completely tasty produce that comes out of my garden.


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ok but I just really love the names they give them
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I’m giggling it’s like a team of ragtag misfit superheroes

I love the sometimes absolutely ugly but completely tasty produce that comes out of my garden.


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ok but I just really love the names they give them
"The Ridiculous Potato"
"The Unfortunate Clementine"
I’m giggling it’s like a team of ragtag misfit superheroes

I love the sometimes absolutely ugly but completely tasty produce that comes out of my garden.


This is fairly important.
suicabear:

thegreenwolf:


bryxhearsxmusic:

sizvideos:

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ok but I just really love the names they give them
"The Ridiculous Potato"
"The Unfortunate Clementine"
I’m giggling it’s like a team of ragtag misfit superheroes

I love the sometimes absolutely ugly but completely tasty produce that comes out of my garden.


This is fairly important.
suicabear:

thegreenwolf:


bryxhearsxmusic:

sizvideos:

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ok but I just really love the names they give them
"The Ridiculous Potato"
"The Unfortunate Clementine"
I’m giggling it’s like a team of ragtag misfit superheroes

I love the sometimes absolutely ugly but completely tasty produce that comes out of my garden.


This is fairly important.
suicabear:

thegreenwolf:


bryxhearsxmusic:

sizvideos:

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ok but I just really love the names they give them
"The Ridiculous Potato"
"The Unfortunate Clementine"
I’m giggling it’s like a team of ragtag misfit superheroes

I love the sometimes absolutely ugly but completely tasty produce that comes out of my garden.


This is fairly important.
suicabear:

thegreenwolf:


bryxhearsxmusic:

sizvideos:

Watch it in video
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ok but I just really love the names they give them
"The Ridiculous Potato"
"The Unfortunate Clementine"
I’m giggling it’s like a team of ragtag misfit superheroes

I love the sometimes absolutely ugly but completely tasty produce that comes out of my garden.


This is fairly important.
suicabear:

thegreenwolf:


bryxhearsxmusic:

sizvideos:

Watch it in video
Follow our Tumblr

ok but I just really love the names they give them
"The Ridiculous Potato"
"The Unfortunate Clementine"
I’m giggling it’s like a team of ragtag misfit superheroes

I love the sometimes absolutely ugly but completely tasty produce that comes out of my garden.


This is fairly important.
suicabear:

thegreenwolf:


bryxhearsxmusic:

sizvideos:

Watch it in video
Follow our Tumblr

ok but I just really love the names they give them
"The Ridiculous Potato"
"The Unfortunate Clementine"
I’m giggling it’s like a team of ragtag misfit superheroes

I love the sometimes absolutely ugly but completely tasty produce that comes out of my garden.


This is fairly important.